Coping With Loss ~ One Man’s Story

There’s no right or wrong way to cope with the loss of a loved one and dealing with intense emotions of grief, anger, regret, and much more, is a frightening, painfully sad and sometimes isolating experience. So when I received an email from Martin Gijzemijter, parts of which, with his permission, I’ll post here, asking me to share his story, I was happy to do so.

Over to Martin….

‘Dinner with God is a novel I wrote for my father to help him cope with the loss of my mother. When my mother died in 2004, the hardest thing – in addition to losing her of course – was having to see my father go through all of this alone. Because you can comfort people who have lost their spouse, but nothing can compensate for their best friend. The only one who can truly comfort them, is the one they lost. I felt so powerless. There was nothing I could do, I mean, I couldn’t bring her back. Or could I? And that is when the idea for Dinner with God was born. It started with a letter, then turned into a story, and eventually into a novel.

In Dinner with God, I send my father on one last adventure with my mother, to give them the opportunity to say goodbye the way life didn’t allow them to, in doing so, trying to show my father that he still has things to live for, to be grateful for.

My main goal with this entire project, is to share my father’s story. It has given him so much strength and comfort, that – together – we decided that we needed to share it with the world, in hopes that it would give others strength as well.’

This expresses perfectly, and much better than I could, the emotion and compassion underlying Martin’s project. If you would like to find out more, and read some of Martin’s novel, please visit 

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